School Refusal: Parents
So let's get real for a second. Every school morning you wake up hoping "this is going to be a good day." Your morning is wrecked when your kid wakes up and doesn't want to go to school. These are the mornings you fear. Parents of school refusal kids know what I am talking about. Your day depends on how your kid wakes up. If your kid is good, you're good. If your kid is bad, you're stuck. What do you do? Do you try forcing your kid in the car, take away his/her iPad "forever," go to work and leave him/her at home..... School Refusal parents, you need help!
Join us as we help you step back, determine the reasons for your child's school refusal behaviors, and help you start to develop a step-by-step parenting plan to encourage your child to stay in school all day, everyday.
Randy Floyd, LSCSW, Founder, Clinical Level Therapist
Randy is the founder of Midwest Anxiety. He is a Licensed Specialist Clinical Social Worker who is an optimist and passionate about helping people focus on what they can do rather than what they can't do. He believes that every person is born with unique strengths and that over time life's stressors can blur our abilities. Randy believes that building a strong therapeutic relationship and tapping into a person's strengths is the most essential components of the therapeutic experience.
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7:00pm - 7:05pm: Introduction
7:05pm - 7:50pm: Discussion of School Refusal Behaviors
7:50pm - 7:55pm: Questions & Answers
7:55pm - 8:00pm: Follow up after class
This class is > about You as a parent and < About your child
Self awareness is the #1 Super skill. Understanding how your parenting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your child are the key that unlocks all things parenting.
SCHOOL REFUSAL BEHAVIORS
- Negotiations about school attendance the night before, morning of, or during school.
- Tardy or absentee from school.
- Pattern of physical complaints (headaches, stomachaches, nausea, etc) prior to or during school.
Reasons for School Refusal
- To stay away from objects or situations at school that make the child feel unpleasant physical symptoms or general distress.
- To stay away from social or evaluative situations at school that are painful to the child (Social Anxiety Disorder).
- To receive attention from a parent or a significant other (Separation Anxiety Disorder).
- To obtain tangible rewards outside of school that make skipping school more fun than staying in school. Home is more fun!
How have you & your school helped with school refusal behaviors?
SCHOOL REFUSAL INTERVENTIONS
For specific interventions, please read Christopher Kearney's books. In his books he gives you an assessment for your child and also for you as parents. This assessment will help you determine reason(s) for school refusal. He also gives you a specific protocol depending on the reason(s) identified in the assessment.
General School Refusal Interventions (please coordinate with your school accordingly)
- Parents will give clear expectation to student that he/she is to participate in school activities with his assigned class all day, every day. There will not be any pulling, tugging, carrying child to car, classroom, etc.
- For every second that student is not in his seat in class, he/she will owe that time at school or home prior to getting any privileges (T.V., video games, sports practices, sports games, eating dinner out, etc)
- Student will owe missed time by completing missed schoolwork and other academic work assigned by parents or school.
- If student refuses to go to school, he will follow same schedule at home as he/she would in class (only eat during eating times at school, sitting at kitchen table to complete school work, only restroom breaks when restroom breaks at school)
- Parents will call school and report student as unexcused if refuses to go to school. School to strictly enforce truancy rules.
- If student refuses to go to school, he/she will pick up his schoolwork in his classroom or office after school. Schoolwork will not be forwarded to parents.
- Student is to self-advocate if he/she is not able to manage expectations.
- Parents and school will provide minimal negotiating or accommodations without self-advocating.
This is a supportive Facebook closed group for parents whose school aged children are emotionally struggling with going to school. We hope you will join our group to connect with other parents who are going through similar struggles. We will also discuss interventions that work and don't work for managing school refusal behaviors.
The Everyone Struggles closed Facebook group is for anyone interested in gaining useful resources to assist with social and emotional struggles, while also connecting with others who may be going through similar struggles.
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