Anxious Kids = Anxious Parents
Does your child suffer from excessive fears and worries, phobias, separation anxiety, panic attacks, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, or other anxiety related issues? Do you want to help your child push through his/her fears to become more resilient, independent, and happy? Anxious children often make anxious parents. While anxious parents can also make anxious children. Is your anxious child making you "walk on eggshells" and feel helpless? If so, this class is for you!
When parents offer help in traditional ways, they unknowingly reinforce an anxious child's worry and avoidance. This class will help parents understand the benefit of helping their anxious children step into uncertainty, while limiting their reassurance, accomodations, and avoidance. This class challenges our basic notions on how to help anxious children. Instead of helping anxious children in the short term by "putting out fires", this class will focus on helping parents build skills for the long term.
We will run through the basics of Anxiety from a Cognitive Behavioral perspective. This will give you a better idea of the key areas to be looking for when your child is anxious. We will also have time to get your questions answered.
Randy Floyd, LSCSW, Founder, Clinical Level Therapist
Randy is the founder of Midwest Anxiety. He is a Licensed Specialist Clinical Social Worker who is an optimist and passionate about helping people focus on what they can do rather than what they can't do. He believes that every person is born with unique strengths and that over time life's stressors can blur our abilities. Randy believes that building a strong therapeutic relationship and tapping into a person's strengths is the most essential components of the therapeutic experience.
Please check out the recording of the Live class. Hope you enjoy ;)
This class is > about You and < About your child
7:00pm - 7:10pm: Introduction
7:10pm - 7:45pm: Discussion of Anxiety Basics
7:45pm - 7:55pm: Questions & Answers
7:55pm - 8:00pm: Follow up after class
Self awareness is the #1 Super skill. Understanding how your parenting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your child are the key that unlocks all things parenting.
Are situations Positive, negative, or neutral?
Anxiety makes your child...
- Zone into the threat, thoughts become negative.
- Difficult to focus on other things other than anxious situation.
- Experience various physiological sensations such as heart palpitations, sweating, headaches, etc.
- Fight, Flight, or Freeze.
- Generally need reassurance, accommodations, or avoidance.
Parenting Rules to increase your child's responsibility
- Encourage but don't make your child "Think opposite thought"
- At the most tell your child "you can handle whatever happens"
- Encourage to "push through" feelings.
- Let your child feel anxious! This will allow your child to develop skills to work through anxiety.
- Don't decrease your child's anxiety by reassuring, accommodating, or avoiding.
- Be more of a problem solver with your child than a fixer...."So what do you think are some options here?"
- Educate! Educate! Educate! about short term benefits vs long term consequences of not facing anxiety
Two things have to happen for your child to become less anxious: Be uncomfortable and be uncertain. this requires less of you and more of your child.
Don't Get Pulled In!
- Expect your child to get anxious. Celebrate your child getting anxious, because that is when the true work happens.
- Get out of the business of providing content to reassure, accommodate, and avoid the anxiety. Don't make it better! You can empathize with your child but be consistent that you will not "fix it" for them.
- Name and externalize the anxiety. "It sounds like anxiety is showing up again, what do YOU think you should do about it?"
- Let your child be uncertain and uncomfortable. This will help them build tolerance and skills to anxiety.
- Don't get overwhelmed by the consequences of your child being anxious.
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The materials distributed are provided with the understanding that the author and presenters are not engaged in rendering professional services. This is a psychoeducational class and information in the presentations or group discussions by the presenters, facilitators, or participants should not be considered to be medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual counsel. The presentations and written materials are not intended to provide medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual services or counseling. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought. Any opinions, finding, recommendations or conclusions expressed by the author(s) or speaker(s) do not necessarily reflect the views of Midwest Anxiety, LLC.